Do what you do with another person, but never put another person out of your heart, for when you do so, you put yourself out of your own heart equal measure.
Understand that your emotional reaction to another’s behavior is your own work on yourself, the other person, place or thing is acting as a mirror for the light and love within and also the illusion of darkness……its all an inside job.
It is true others may engage in behavior, that is unbecoming and you might feel that you need and should separate from them. Ultimately, however they did not cause the pain, and we see that suffering has been long held there.
Our heavier emotional reactions to something or someone are a result of long held trauma, hurt and pain. Our buttons are being pushed, so to speak in any given moment but the energy, the emotion that is arising from deep within, in large part is archaic in nature, it has been there a long time.
What is being mirrored, triggered in you is a place where you think yourself separate from love, from God, from home. That is your anger, fear and ultimate grief from all that is true in you and therefore becomes an opportunity, a call to spiritual arms!
The deeper the pain, the greater the opportunity for you to find the light within that is always present that lays beyond the darkness….in you. Own that darkness, the anger, the fear, the grief……… surrender it all to God……also within.
Not an easy process but needed for peace within and without. If peace is to prevail on this earth then we must all understand it starts within each of us, then given outwards in every increasing acts of loving kindness and compassion.
By the way… you never dump your pain on another, there is simply no way out of your pain that way for we are all deep down….ONE LOVE. We are all connected at our core truth…..So, when you hurt another you simply but profoundly hurt yourself ten-fold.
Finally we see that when we do let another back into our hearts, we let ourselves back into our own heart….and in doing so create the space for the other to come back into their own heart, to transcend their suffering. This is a core re-action in the practice of forgiveness.
We are a gift in each others lives for illussion and truth. Yes this is the work of a lifetime….lifetimes, no doubt and not an easy task. We do the work however in order to serve each other in light, in truth, in love….we do it all in service…… to the ONE.
(If I can help in any way with sharing what practices that I use for this work, please contact me at www.teaandzen.org…….Loving one and all, including myself…..Nigel 1-206-769-6725