Humans often engage in a coping mechanism, projecting their grief, typically in the guise of anger, onto others in a futile attempt to alleviate their suffering.
It's crucial to recognize that anger is a manifestation of grief, much like fear. Anger serves as a mask, concealing the fear that stems from unmet longing. The underlying grief remains constant, acting as a poignant reminder during moments when it seems that all love is absent.
The very fabric of our existence is woven with love, and whenever we perceive ourselves as separate from this love, grief inevitably surfaces, manifesting as fear and anger—essentially however, it's all grief.
Attempting to unload this discomfort onto others is a common strategy, as if transferring the pain can somehow free us from it. Unfortunately, this approach overlooks the fact that dumping our suffering onto another being not only harms them but also magnifies our own suffering tenfold.
Dumping our pain onto others is not a viable solution; there is no escape in this manner. Furthermore, it's worth noting that those we love most deeply often bear the brunt of our anger, fear, and grief. This tendency is rooted in the fact that those we love mirror the profound aspects of the pain we carry. Opening our hearts to others means confronting our own pain first—a potential opportunity for healing in a conscious world.
However, these actions often occur at an unconscious level, resembling knee-jerk reactions. This behavior is not exclusive to individuals; as a species, we collectively engage in this pattern, and it extends beyond humans. Regrettably, we excel at projecting our grief often onto those we cherish the most.
Unaware, we unload our discomfort onto others, failing to realize that, at our core, we are interconnected by a love that binds hearts across the cosmos, constituting the very essence of the universe that envelops and resides within us. There is no 'other'; there is only that singular love. Recognizing this truth liberates us from suffering when we internalize it.
Engaging in the journey of acknowledging our sense of separation, we initiate our personal grief work. Yet, in the truth of it all, Love remains an ever-present force—we are never truly alone. Grief, in its unfolding process, leads us full circle back to the encompassing One Love that unites us all. Embracing this process has the power to set the entire world free, given the gift of a little time. Nigel Lott